The joy of having him was indescribable, yet being a first-time mom felt overwhelming. Taking care of a baby was so demanding, it didn't leave me much time to take care of myself.
My hat is off to every single parent. But more than praise for the difficulty of their task, I know from talking to so many of them that they need someone to walk with them and encourage them.
They started with two parents, but something happened—death, divorce, abandonment—and now they are struggling to fill two roles that their children desperately need. They are trying to do an already difficult task without all of the resources they need.
If you know a single parent, go to them and find ways to encourage them.
But there are some practical steps that can offer help and hope in this very difficult job. Set rules and boundaries for your child and establish the consequences ahead of time. It is quite common for the other parent who is gone not to be supportive of your efforts as a parent; hold firm anyhow.
Yes, your teens are missing something by not having both parents in their lives. You will not make things better by allowing that to be their excuse to get away with damaging and destructive behavior. One of the biggest impacts of single parenting is the economic impact.
Most single parent families have a harder time making ends meet. I understand that you will have to work, perhaps longer and harder than before. But spending one on one time with your teens, asking them questions and letting them ask you questions is more important in this setting than ever before.
Make time for your kids. In a two-parent home, each parent gets feedback and input from the other.
Ideas can be exchanged and one can pick up the slack of the other or fill in when one needs a rest. In the absence of that, find a group or an individual that understands your situation and can give you encouragement and good advice on the extra challenges you face as a single parent.
Find someone—an extended family member or a sitter—to fill in for you once or twice a week, to give you time away to recharge your batteries.
And don't forget to take time to pray and meditate on God's Word on a daily basis. My friend Michael Card likens single parenting to a wilderness experiences.
They are looking to you for guidance and direction, and though you would desperately like for someone to have kept you out of that situation in the first place, you have to be the leader and make sure they make it out safe and sound. The origin of the word 'worship' is worth-ship. So, people who go through those experiences in the wilderness come to learn His worth and therefore they learn to truly worship and trust Him even more.
Are you looking to God to give you strength or are you trying to go it alone? Caught in a Tug of War I talked recently to a single mom named Sheri. Instead of being an authority for their children, he tries to be a friend to them. I asked Sheri how that played out in her parenting. He [their son] chooses to spend most of his time with his dad because he would rather be without the rules.
I feel like our son is like the rope in a tug of war.
I keep trying to let go so he is not torn between two directions. You never want to back off from doing right in order to have a better relationship with your child. You may be familiar with the story of Eric Liddell which was told in the move Chariots of Fire.
Liddell, the son of Scottish missionaries, was one of the premier track runners in the world. He refused to run the meter dash in the Olympics because the qualifying race was held on a Sunday.
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